Anger is a fairly self-righteous energy in general. Where you are emotionally hurt by another, it hides that feeling and overwhelms it with an attacking response as if you are in physical danger, But,, you are not. When there is no emotional take on a situation, for example a car cutting you off in traffic, or, god forbid, dropping into your safety distance on the motorway, anger has no value for you or anyone else.
What happens when you get angry? The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that go with recurrent mismanaged anger can eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body.
Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to mismanaged anger include:
- digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
- increased anxiety
- high blood pressure
- skin problems, such as eczema
- heart attack
Interestingly people who allow anger to be an accepted response to situations find it easier to angry over small things. This moves them into the zone of long term health risks that they just don’t need to live through, more than that it affects relationships to the point of breakdown fairly regularly. A very effective method of checking and even eliminating anger in certain areas of your life, is to add a mental blocker I call, ‘The last time’.
Let’s face it, none of us a pristine in our actions. Then next time something draws anger from you, ask yourself the Question that applies to the situation.
“When was the last time I…”
Didn’t notice a car and cut them off?
Dive into a lane so I didn’t miss my turn off?
Didn’t listen properly?
Told a lie for convenience?
Let someone down?
Had someone yell at you for making a mistake?
Any time you ask the question, for most of us, the answer will bring less judgement and more understanding along with much needed tolerance in a hectic world. Getting angry at someone else’s transgressions is a lot harder when you know that they are just like you.