I often talk about asking a good question. This morning a
tarot student asked how to be sure you are asking a good question (one that
addresses what you really need to know) when reading for herself.
The principle is the same but here are some examples to help
you along when you are emotionally invested in the answer. Emotionally invested is a desire to either
validate a suspicion, or to deny it. The cards cannot fix your life or
relationship, they give you information to use that can improve your life. If
you make that your intention, you will get great information every time.
If you are seeking information about suspecting a cheating
husband/wife, it doesn’t work well to ask the cards if they are cheating.
Firstly, the cards do not do yes or no answers. If that is what you seek, it is
best to see a clairvoyant/aura reader. Often yes or no queries lead to confused
readings, this is made worse if you try to lay out a number of cards with a yes
or no intention.
If your partner has
prior history in stepping out this will also impact the accuracy of your
question because the chances are good you know pretty well what their behaviour
means or, you simply don’t trust them. It is also a terrible idea to ask about
other people or a person who you think may be involved. Once you ask a question
that begins with a mistaken assumption, every card you lay out has no meaning.
It is very important to keep the boundaries that restrict the presentation of
information as wide as possible to start, then narrow the field of query as you
The first card will become a significator card from which
all others can follow. This is called an evolving layout. Practicing this is
pretty easy, you can start here for any query on any day. For example you can
start with the main influence in your day, this is usually an influence that
holds a major part of energy, that is to say a single event that sets the tone
or ends the day, or it can be a number of things that are determined by
attitude. Then you can follow that with clarification of how this will come
An evolving layout looks something like this:
- ‘What do I need to know to clarify my current
situation with [insert name]’ If not a person you can just think of the
- What options do I have?
- What can I do to improve the situation?
- What is the best outcome I can hope for?
The cards you lay out for each question may influence the
next question. What restricts or causes problems is not accepting information,
but if done correctly this layout can present a story where you hold the power
over your own choices and where you direct things to go. They can cut through
denials, and give you the best case scenario. If that means the end of the
relationship and your partner is cheating, it is where, on some level, you
understand you are headed.
The key to using information is to give yourself the best
chance to plan ahead and work a situation to your advantage. If your partner is
going to exit the relationship, you will always do better by accepting this and
planning for it, legally or otherwise. If your partner is not planning on
exiting the relationship but continues to be dishonest or engage in extra
marital affairs, you may wish to exit the relationship of your own accord so
you can heal and move on rather than putting years of pain into false hope.