Be who you wish to be, not who you were taught to be
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Only you have lived your life and only you know your strengths and weaknesses. What if I told you this knowledge is simply not true! When it comes to habits or behaviours you want to change, these are the self beliefs that prevent you succeeding permanently. Where does your mind go when you are hurting? What are your thoughts when you fail? What do you believe about yourself? Do you believe eating makes you fat or do you believe you have to diet to maintain your size? Precision weight loss programs are designed to target every area that your subconscious mistakenly uses to protect you.

Choose to stop dieting and joining expensive weight loss organizations who don’t make their money when you lose weight successfully, they make money by keeping you in the game. Choose to be at peace and get smaller anyway, easily, peacefully. Hypnotherapy with Dorothy is your way to end the cycle of a lifetime or even a more recent habit. Choose a single session to target a food group like, sugar, dairy, or chocolate, or choose a whole program when problems are beyond food and your self image is in question. Some families use food as a reward, if this is true for you, it makes it harder for you to diet as your subconscious will feel this is punishment and try to correct the situation with cravings and a drive to eat. Hypnosis can overcome this type of brain training.

Some families encouraged overeating with punishments for not finishing a meal, no matter how big it was, Hypnosis can overcome the guilt that is used in these situations while also managing guilt itself which can have a negative impact in relationships and is a major player in anxiety. Some people eat when they are fearful, depressed or anxious, while others struggle to sleep well which increases a desire for high energy foods even without much activity which usually leads to weight gain. You may make poor food choices, snack or eat when you aren’t hungry. The more areas you recognize in yourself, the more specific your program needs to be. What do you see as your problem really? Most serial dieters have experienced massive weight loss over time, so why put the weight back on? Hypnosis can reveal and eliminate this why. Dorothy’s sessions are online, covid compliant and comfortable as you can be in your own space. These are video sessions with programs being weekly until completed. Ask for a program that matches your needs, perhaps dieting isn’t the issue, maybe all you need is the desire to get moving and exercise more.

Sometimes weight loss isn’t about food at all, it is about how you feel in life, whether you are happy and appreciate all you have. Recognizing where giving up on happiness engages behaviours that specifically give you reason to be unhappy is powerful in changing how you eat, what you eat and how much you eat, without ever hypnotizing for food issues. It is common for long term weight issues to require regression and release therapies that may be related to past trauma and anger problems. Hypnosis can effectively help you move past and eliminate deeply held feelings. It is highly valuable for teens and young adults before they live years of damaging behaviours that also need to be tidied up in the end, clients often say, ‘I wish I had found you years ago.’ I understand why exactly.

An interesting case: A mother wanted me to hypnotize her daughter to give up smoking, she was 16 and also had weight issues. In there consultation the mother made a number of negative comments about the girl, she was angry with her, but the 16 year old was clearly very angry getting into trouble often for violent outbursts and physically fighting. I watched her daughter bristle in that session and once her mother had left, I asked her what she thought she needed. Her response was to lose weight, she explained about her dad leaving the family and starting a new family. I asked her if she might prefer to be hypnotized for anger, and then we could look at the behaviours after that in another session if she liked. I mentioned that all the people that were angry with her for being angry would have less reason to push at her and she would be happier at school also. She agreed to give it a try so anger hypnosis it was, she never booked another session. A few months later I ran into her mother in the street, she hailed me smiling broadly and said ‘ What did you do with my daughter? That girl you sent back to me was completely different, she quit smoking in a week or so, she lost weight and while she isn’t the model of great behaviour, she is more caring and getting along with her brother and dad. She hasn’t been in trouble at school since she had her hypnosis.’ I smiled and said how pleased I was to hear it. If nothing else this case shows that dealing with what underlies the symptoms makes it easier to eliminate those behaviours that indicate something more is going on.

In case you are wondering, she didn’t want to be hurt and angry, she didn’t want to be in trouble all the time, she didn’t want to be fighting her mum. She just didn’t know how to deal with her feelings and didn’t know what to do about them beyond smoking, eating and behaving in a rebellious manner. What I am most pleased with, that she didn’t have to dive down a deep hole for years, before finding a solution.

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Over many years I watched my mother struggle with her weight. The photos showing her in her 30’s depict her as huge. As a teenager she was plump and after she had children the cycle had been set that would become our lives not just hers.

Mum tried every diet there was, and once her marriage to my father dissolved her efforts intensified. The trouble was, that there was desperation in the attempt; she was not a happy woman. Mum ate with her emotions, her lonely times were the late evening and that is when she would add a meal or two to her day’s intake. She would almost be determined, between diets, to eat all the foods she felt she had been missing out on. Don’t misunderstand me she tried hard with her diets and succeeded with a few. She was a weight watchers member for 2 years and achieved her goal weight, as soon as she had done this she went out and proceeded to put all the weight back on again, this took months not years.

She also did Jenny Craig successfully with the same scenario. In between these she got into the fad diets, these took the form of books that makes the author millions, helps a few lose weight and ensures the cycle continues. Mum always felt guilty about her eating habits and her weight gain. She was unhappy with who she was, even when she lost the weight. She also believed that if she ate food she would get fat, and so she didn’t even enjoy the food she was eating. Having stopped doing any form of physical activity outside of necessity she eventually had a heart attack that highlighted her undiagnosed angina problem, after which she was given a quadruple bypass. This helped her to be more comfortable and probably extended her life for a good 10 years, as she was only 50 when she had the heart attack and 53 when the bypass was performed, dying at 63 worked in with the prognosis. Unfortunately for mum there was also the embarrassment of being told she couldn’t have the surgery unless she lost weight. This offended the whole family but the reasoning was sound, quite simply she was very likely to die having been a heavy smoker and overweight.

At no point after that did she lose much weight, although for the rest of her life she made token efforts to appear as though she was trying. My Mum was never happy in her life, weight issues, smoking and alcohol were all symptoms of her distress, but nobody addressed the real problems that she had. I believe that if someone could have helped her with her emotional problems at some point, she could have lived a happier life if not a longer one. I am very aware that the pursuit of weight loss brings its own pressures and continues the cycle rather than ending it.

No matter what you start, start with the intention of succeeding!

My goal is to find a way for you to be happy with yourself, this does not mean staying in the cycle and saying ‘I’m happy being fat”. This is about finding your happiness so that the exercise or food choices you make are made, not for weight loss, or out of guilt feelings, or for others, but from a true desire to just be happy being you.

We will help you identify your core issue, and then recognise your personal patterns. We will not only give you the tools to help you break old habits, but will help you weekly to learn new patterns that will benefit you permanently. You will be fully supported by me during the whole process. This course is stand alone, or, complimentary to whatever programme you may already be on, or wish to start. If you are currently on a programme then we will help you make it work for you, permanently. This program aims to find the thoughts, and belief patterns that prevent you from being who you truly want to be while at the same time introducing a new way of thinking via , energy therapy and coaching.

The Weighting Game is broken down into parts to match your needs. It is a combination of hypnosis, coaching and energy therapy. If you feel you have a short term problem that is getting worse or started within the last couple of years, you will get away with a single session + hypnosis.

If you recognize you have had a problem since you had kids or after trauma but just can’t get a handle on it, 3 sessions could do the trick for you, and if you have had an ongoing problem for most of your adult life, you will need to get committed to creating a sustainable change.  Serial dieting brings its own problems which add to the original issues, not the least of these being a lack of confidence in your ability to be who you want to be or who you know you can be.

Being skinny won’t make you happy,being happy will make you perfect